Friday, November 18, 2011

Manage Stress Better

How often have you heard someone say, "I'm so stressed!"? Or how many times have you felt the same way? We face challenges every day: family, conflict, job and peer pressure, disagreements with friends and overdue bills. Stress fills every corner of our life and it is a fact of life.
What is stress? Stress is the emotional and physical way in which our bodies respond to pressure. Common stress include tension, irritability, inability to concentrate, and a variety of physical symptoms that include headache and a fast heartbeat. Prolonged stress causes weakness of the blood vessels and heart and further damage to our health if the situation remains unchanged.


How does stress affect the body?

There has been a lot of research over the last two decades and the results obtained clearly show that excessive stress could affect health:
  • Increases heart rate
  • Blood flow to your brain and muscles increases up to 400 percent
  • Your digestion stops (so it doesn't use up energy that's needed elsewhere)
  • Releases fatty acids into the bloodstream for energy that increases cholesterol and triglyceride levels
  • Your muscle tension increases
  • Increases blood clotting
  • Causes the spasm of coronary and other arteries

How stress can hurt us
  • Stress can cause chronic fatigue, digestive upsets, headaches, and back pain
  • Stress can affect the blood cells that help you fight off infection, so you are more likely to get colds and other diseases
  • Constant stress can increase blood pressure and can increase the risk for stroke
  • Stress can increase the danger of heart attacks, particularly if you are often angry and mistrustful
  • Stress can make an asthma attack worse
  • Stress triggers behaviors that contribute to death and disability, such as smoking, alcoholism, drug abuse, and overeating
  • Stress can lead to diminished sexual desire and an inability to achieve orgasm
  • Stress can make it harder to take other steps to improve health , such as giving up smoking or making changes in diet
Tips for reducing stress
  • Keep a positive attitude
  • Accept that there are events that you cannot control
  • Be assertive instead of aggressive. "Assert" your feelings, opinions, or beliefs instead of becoming angry, defensive, or passive
  • Learn and practice relaxation techniques
  • Exercise regularly. Your body can fight stress better when it is fit
  • Eat healthy, well-balanced meals
  • Get enough rest and sleep. Your body needs time to recover from stressful events
  • Don't rely on alcohol or drugs to reduce stress
  • Seek out social support
  • Learn to manage your time more effectively
Fitness facts
  • Exercise boosts brainpower
  • Movement melts away stress
  • Exercise gives you energy
  • It's not that hard to find time for fitness
  • Fitness can help build relationships
  • Exercise helps ward off disease
  • Fitness pumps up your heart
  • Exercise lets you eat more (muscle burns more calories at rest than body fat. So, the more muscle you have, the higher your resting metabolic rate. And of course, you also burn calories while you're actually exercising)
  • Exercise boosts performance
  • Weight loss is not the most important goals. Enhancing health has become another goal though
Ways to de-stress and eat less
  • Fit in fitness every day. Getting regular physical activity works wonders in coping with stress. Give your stress to the pavement or the treadmill and let it go from your body. 
  • Enjoy natural sunlight. A brisk walk in the sunshine can be a real mood enhancer.
  • Keep up your journal every day. Self-monitoring your food, fitness, and emotional feelings is an excellent way to become more aware of your triggers and behavioral patterns.
  • Don't deprive yourself of enjoying the foods you love, for this only leads to bingeing. Instead, plan to eat small portion of the desired foods, eat it slowly, and savor every mouthful.
  • Set some ground rules about eating (such as only eat while seated, no food after 9pm, no second helpings, etc.)
  • Identify the situations that cause overeating and develop a list of how you will handle these challenges. Be realistic. 
  • Relax. Give yourself 15 minutes each day of peace and quiet, a time to be reflective, meditate, or simply unwind. Soaking in a hot bubble bath can help release your troubles into thin air. Breaking free from the family, a breath of fresh air, or escaping to a quiet room will energize and empower you.
  • Be good to yourself.  Have a list of motivational sayings that inspire and strengthen your resolve. Use affirmations daily to help you feel good about yourself and your mission to lose weight.
  • Eat healthfully . Proper nutrition promotes health, well-being, and rejuvenation, which in turn enhances your resilience to stress.

Friday, November 11, 2011

Ai Tai Kong by Cyndi Wang



Song Title : Ai Tai Kong 爱太空
Singer : Cyndi Wang 王心凌

忘了从什么时候
wang le cong she me shi hou
I've forgotten since when

开始做同一个梦
kai shi zuo tong yi ge meng
Starting to have the same dream

你总是背对著我
ni zhong shi bei dui zhe wo
You always back faced me

怎么也不肯回头
zen me ye bu ken hui tou
Not going to turn around no matter what

当梦与现实交错
dang meng yu xian shi jiao cuo
When dreams and reality crisscrossed 

才发现爱变空了
cai fa xian ai bian kong le
Only then, realized love becomes empty

好像有一个黑洞
hao xiang you yi ge hei dong
Wish there is a black hole

把爱全都给吞没
ba ai quan dou gei tun mo

To engulf all the love

我终于渐渐明白
wo zhong yu jian jian ming bai

Finally, I gradually understand


爱太空那种无奈
ai tai kong na zhong wu nai
Helplessness of empty love

让我们看不到未来
rang wo men kan bu dao wei lai
We're unable to see the future

也没勇气能走开
ye mei yong qi neng zou kai
Also have no courage to leave

Chorus:
原来爱与不爱谁也不能置身
yuan lai ai yu bu ai shei ye bu neng zhi shen
So, to love or not, nobody can place oneself

室外
shi wai
Out of the situation

昨天明天都低不过一个现在
zuo tian ming tian dou di bu guo yi ge xian zai
Whether yesterday or tomorrow, it cannot be compare to present

我们都该著对自己坦白
wo men dou gai xue zhe dui zi ji tan bai
We all ought to learn to be honest

曾经爱过痛过哭过笑过都是
ceng jing ai guo tong guo ku guo xiao guo dou shi
As long as ever loved, ached, cried, laughed; it's consider as  

种精采
zhong jing cai
A wonderful experience

不要让爱空了对白
bu yao rang ai kong le dui bai
Don't ever allow empty dialogue in love

只剩下无奈
zhi sheng xia wu nai
Only left with helplessness

爱太空无法重来
ai tai kong wu fa chong lai

Love too empty unable to repeat again

Repeat from beginning

原来爱与不爱谁也不能置身
yuan lai ai yu bu ai shei ye bu neng zhi shen
So, to love or not, nobody can place oneself

室外
shi wai
Out of the situation

昨天明天都低不过一个现在
zuo tian ming tian dou di bu guo yi ge xian zai
Whether yesterday or tomorrow, it cannot be compare to present

我们都该著对自己坦白
wo men dou gai xue zhe dui zi ji tan bai
We all ought to learn to be honest

相信爱
xiang xin ai
Believe love

曾经爱过痛过哭过笑过都是
ceng jing ai guo tong guo ku guo xiao guo dou shi
As long as ever loved, ached, cried, laughed; it's consider as  

种精采
zhong jing cai
A wonderful experience

不要让爱空了对白
bu yao rang ai kong le dui bai
Don't ever allow empty dialogue in love

只剩下无奈
zhi sheng xia wu nai
Only left with helplessness

爱太空无法重来
ai tai kong wu fa chong lai

Love too empty unable to repeat again

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

I Believe in You by Hagen Troy


Song Title :  I Believe in You
Singer : Hagen Troy 陈孟奇


我要举起双手 献上我所有
wo yao ju qi shuang shou   xian shang wo suo you
I wanna lift up my hands to offer you everything i owned

你给我力量让我向前走
ni gei wo li liang rang wo xiang qian zou
You give me strength to move forward

纵然面对太多的困难
zong ran mian dui tai duo de kun nan
Despite facing all the difficulties

你依然在我的身旁
ni yi ran zai wo de shen pang
You're still by my side

我相信我全然的相信
wo xiang xin   wo quan ran de xiang xin
I believe; I completely believe

Chorus :

I Believe in You

不会再有任何的疑惑保留
bu hui zai you ren he de yi huo bao liu
Will not continue to have any uncertainties

I Believe in You

不要放开我的手
bu yao fang kai wo de shou
Do not let go of my hand

I Believe in You

我的眼泪不再因被悲伤而流
wo de yan lei bu zai yin bei bei shang er liu
My tears will not flow because of sadness

主我相信
zhu wo xiang xin
Lord I Believe

Cos I Believe in You

主我们愿全心相信你真理
zhu wo men yuan quan xin xiang xin ni zhen li
Lord we would like to wholeheartedly believe you

真爱的力量使我有勇气
zhen ai de li liang   shi wo you yong qi
The power of true love enables me to have the courage

纵然面对太多的困难
zong ran mian dui tai duo de kun nan
Despite facing all the difficulties

你依然在我的身旁
ni yi ran zai wo de shen pang
You're still by my side

我相信我全然的相信
wo xiang xin   wo quan ran de xiang xin
I believe; I completely believe

repeat chorus

I Believe in You

我要举起双手献上我所有
wo yao ju qi shuang shou   xian shang wo suo you
I wanna lift up my hands to offer everything I owned

主我相信
zhu wo xiang xin
Lord I believe

Cos I Believe in You

I Believe in You

我的眼泪不再因被悲伤而流
wo de yan lei bu zai yin bei bei shang er liu
My tears will not flow because of sadness

Yes I Believe in You

Monday, September 12, 2011

5 ways to let go of a grudge

They say that harboring a grudge is akin to having the life sucked out of you. There may be more truth to the statement than you think.


While most of us know that bitter resentment can affect our mental health, recent studies have found that it can also harm our physical well-being. Like other emotions, bitterness has dire repercussions: high blood pressure, elevated heart rate, and an increased risk of heart disease.


Negative emotions like stress, anger and depression can lead to physical problem such as high blood pressure, elevated heart rate and increased risk of heart disease. Prolonged feelings of these negative emotions can take a serious toll on your health in the long term.



It’s near impossible to maintain a constantly outlook of life. After all, we all suffer from more bad days than good. In fact, many psychologists believe that expressing negative emotions are healthy. The trick is to not let it become a chronic problem.



Here are 5 ways to resolve your negative emotions:

1. Vent to a friend about what’s bothering you

"Give yourself time to vent and get it out of your system," suggests Dr. Maryann Troiani, co-author of the book Spontaneous Optimism.
It’s important to express those bitter feelings so that you don’t end up nurturing them. The ear of a close friend is extremely helpful as a sympathetic and non-judgemental outlet for your anger.

2. Watch the news

Sometimes, we let our problems overwhelm us so much so that we forget how lucky we are. We need to be reminded how small our problems are when we compare them to others who are worse off than us.
"I ask people to watch the news for a day, or read the paper, or go to work and talk to people, and they'll see that others have suffered and this is just a part of life," says Luskin, author of the book "Forgive for Good."

3. Consider confronting the person who hurt you

Depending on the situation, it may work out or it may backfire. Confronting your boss about his silly decisions may end up giving you more trouble than it’s worth.
Instead, write a letter to the person you are angry at. Let out all your rage on that piece of paper, then throw it away and move on from there.

4. Realise that you are only harming yourself

Holding a grudge is a conscious choice that people make. You can consciously stop the process by constantly reminding yourself that you are only causing yourself physical harm.
"I tell my patients, take care of this bitterness now, or in five years it will haunt you in the form of chronic headaches, fatigue, arthritis, and backaches," Troiani says.

5. Try to see things from the other person’s point of view

People may treat you in a manner that you think is unfair. Instead of flaring up, consider that their actions could be because they’re going through a hard time themselves.
Occasionally, the path to forgiveness is empathizing with your offender's situation.

Thursday, November 11, 2010

Man Man Deng by William Wei




Song Title : Man Man Deng 慢慢等
Singer : William Wei 韋禮安

你终究占据了我的心房 
ni zong jiu zhan ju le wo de xin fang
After all, you've occupied my heart

我终于知道什么叫做疯狂
wo zhong yu zhi dao shen me jiao zuo feng kuang
I finally know what is madness

因为你我不再怕黑暗 
yin wei ni wo bu zai pa hei an
Because of you I'm no longer afraid of darkness

想著你让我更加勇敢
xiang zhe ni rang wo geng jia yong gan
Thinking of you makes me more courageous

*你说你害怕曾经受过的伤 
ni shuo ni hai pa ceng jing shou guo de shang
You said you're afraid of the hurt you've been through

过去发生的情节让你迷惘
guo qu fa sheng de qing jie rang ni mi wang
What happen in the past make you so lost

害怕重演 在你身上 
hai pa chong yan zai ni sheng shang
Afraid that it will happen again

怯步 让你失去了方向
qie bu rang ni shi qu le fang xiang
Prohibitive makes you losing direction

或许我没资格说什么
huo xu wo mei zi ge shuo shen me
Perhaps i'm not qualified to say anything

(有谁不会害怕呢)
you shei bu hui hai pa ne
Who will not fear of darkness

但我知道我会愿意等
dan wo zhi dao wo hui yuan yi deng
But i know i would be willing to wait

(你相信我的时候)
ni xiang xin wo de shi hou
When you believe me


Chorus :

我会慢慢等
wo hui man man deng 
I will wait slowly

慢慢等 慢慢等
man man deng man man deng
Waiting slowly

慢慢等 慢慢等 
man man deng man man deng
Waiting slowly

慢慢等
man man deng 
Wait slowly

等上线 的铃声
deng shang xian de ling sheng
Waiting for the ringtones on the line

慢慢等 等到我都睡著了 
man man deng deng dao wo dou shui zhao le
Waiting slowly till i fell asleep

耐心等只为了心动那一刻
nai xin deng zhi wei le xin dong na yi ke
Waiting patiently for the moment you get touched

慢慢等 慢慢等 慢慢等
man man deng man man deng
Waiting slowly

慢慢等 慢慢  慢慢等
man man deng man man man man deng
Waiting slowly

等红灯 变绿灯
deng hong deng ban lue deng
Until red light turns green

慢慢等 当你突然觉得冷 
man man deng dang ni tu ran jue de leng
Waiting slowly and when you suddenly felt cold

我会握著温暖在 在这里等著
wo hui wo zhe wen nuan zai zai zhe li deng zhe
I will hold the warmth right here waiting

repeat *
repeat chorus